Loss and grief weave into our lives as the seasons pass… as plans are made… as love is shared. Yet we still have a lot to learn about – and from – this painful human experience. Most of our learning takes place in the midst of unrelenting sadness, at a time when we have one goal: stop the pain. Grief is a time of emptiness and searching. We might seek help, but most people rely on traditions, both visible and invisible, from childhood homes. Many find themselves “going through the motions.” The patterns from our childhood become the template for our grieving.
An alternative to this somewhat unconscious style of grieving is to enter the process as a participant. The waves of loneliness and confusion will continue to crash for a time. But as a conscious griever, you step into the sadness with more awareness, more tools, and perhaps more hope. Like an artist, a conscious griever makes choices that come from deep within, inviting grief to reveal the healing gift of that particular loss. Grieving consciously creates pathways into deeper self-knowledge, invites an increased ability to be grateful, and encourages connections to loved ones that transcend time and space.
My hope is to encourage you to become aware of your own process of grieving. Take the time to observe your feelings and behaviors. Use information, insights, and practical exercises to take care of yourself and your needs in this challenging time. Be gentle with yourself, especially in the choices you make. Conscious grieving respects both the hard work of grief, as well as your tender heart where grief resides. Conscious grieving becomes an opportunity for ongoing reflection, guiding you toward healing and hope.
The programs and publications offered on this site provide more information on grieving consciously. I am available to hear more about your story and your grief, and to offer tangible suggestions to support your journey in the Land of Loss. Reach out through the Contact page and we’ll start a conversation of hope.
I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss. Rita Mae Brown